There's a big misconception that success and opportunities lie greatly on the idea of “who you know”. It's just not true. I know a lot of people. I know a lot of names and in some cases I probably know a heck of a lot more about them than they know about me… if they even know my name.
No one is going to call me up and offer an opportunity of any kind when they don't even know me.
I'm not saying “know” as in be best buds or add the title of Godparent to their relationship duties. No. I'm saying really know them; who is this person beyond their name or title, what do they do, how do they handle business, how do they treat people. But again, it's not about what you know about them…
It's about what they know about you.
People like to work with and be around like minded individuals. They like to feel a connection on some level, even in business. You could plan this by meeting people and playing it off like you fit in. However, down the road the truth will come through, so save everyone the time and the hassle and just be who you are and be a darn great you.
What it all comes down to is this: the best opportunities will come to you because you are a great person and others know it. Key, let me repeat this because it's a two part comment…
Opportunities will come your way because:
- You are a great person
- Others know it
These keys are interchangeable and required of each other. Both parts to that equation have to be in place for it to make a difference. You have to be consistent about it as well. You can't be great toward one group of people and not another or let one group know you and not another. Word does travel. This is the chatterbox age and what you do or say or act like at breakfast will come out somewhere by lunchtime, if not before the breakfast dishes are washed.
I guess this is where the “it just fell into my lap” comes in. Opportunities don't really “just happen”. Nothing realistically “just lands” anywhere.
Opportunities happen because of who you are and who knows it.
So be a great you, strive for your goals regardless of what others do or say or believe and good things will indeed come. Just a side note, your view of a “good thing” might not be what you get, so make sure your expectations include acceptance of surprises.